I have always thought long and hard about what I post on my blog. It's important to me that I maintain a balance of personal information along with general crafting. Allowing me to both connect and share with my readers whilst keeping up a real level of privacy.
I have also always thought deeply about the subjects that I write about and my reasons for including them in my blog posts.
I'm sure that whilst writing about the details of my 7 miscarriages that there were plenty of people out there that felt that I was crossing a line that they were uncomfortable with. But I can tell you that when I wrote my first post about how the miscarriages felt and I received a lot of emails thanking me for sharing my pain and for allowing so many people to see that they were not alone in the incredible pain that they and I felt, that I knew without a doubt that I was doing the right thing.
It was incredibly helpful to both me and many of my readers to be able to share the horrendous experience of losing a pregnancy. And I will always be grateful for the amount of support I received.
That said, I also received a number of emails from people that I knew and respected that suggested that the only reason people read and commented on my blog was that there was so much drama and heartache and that I was in some way prostituting my feelings and pain for readership.
This led to me absolutely cutting back on the amount of personal information that I have included in my posts for the last year. Which is why I have written absolutely nothing about my separation from Jim and very little about my employment with Sew Hip or Jim's suspension and redundancy from his job.
I have also written nothing about Lily's health and very little about Bella's. Even though all of these things affect my life immensely on a day to day basis.
And I think that's a shame. I think that the blog has suffered from me censoring myself just because I have worried that people will think I am writing sensational posts just to gain comments or readership. But it's still something I struggle with and that I am still trying to balance it in a way that makes me happy.
But the thing is, all of that has been my decision. I decided whether or not to include the heartbreaking details of my miscarriages. And I decided whether or not to let everyone know how I felt when I was suddenly faced with caring for two children on my own with no income. And whether or not I made the right decisions for the right reasons, they were at least still my decisions.
What I will not have, what I will not suffer is some one thinking that they can tell me what to write on my own personal blog. And that is the situation I now find myself in.
A couple of days ago I wrote that Sew Hip had still not returned my samples. A statement that is wholly true and in no way slanderous. And yet today I received a letter from them demanding (amongst many other things) that I delete that entire post or they would withhold both payment that they owe me as well as my samples until I did so.
This is offensive for so many reasons. Not least the fact that what I wrote was completely and utterly true. But the main thing is that they think that they can stop me from writing the truth just because they say so.
And here's the thing, here's what I've worked out and realised for myself. That whilst I may want to share all of my ups and downs with you, I really can't. Not just because it's my own private life, but because, really you need the good stuff. We all need the good stuff. That's what a lot of these blogs are about.
But, and it's a big but, what I write, as long as it is truthful and lawful, is up to me. It is my decision what to include. And no suggestion that I am involved in 'car crash' blogging or any bogus legal threats will stop me.
I just want to make that very clear. Right here and right now.
Just in case, you know, you weren't quite sure.
(and you see that girl up there? Her and her sister give my all the strength I need to fight anything).